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omaewokorosu) wrote2025-02-18 01:45 pm
omaewokorosu) wrote2025-02-18 01:45 pm
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there's no reason to go back there anymore.
Someone spent $4530 to clear out the second floor of Egg's abode... Some would say I should feel bad, but I don't, because Egg was the one who said she would pay for the clean out and handle everything with it...after discussion.
There was supposed to be a discussion, and there wasn't one. She attempted to call once and then never again on 28 December before starting this on 6 January. I know this because I can see the checks she wrote and who they were to. She is supposed to give 30 days' notice to retrieve whatever was left behind before disposing of it. She is supposed to try multiple times to establish contact before disposing of what is considered someone ese's property. In her not doing so she's opened herself up to a lawsuit. We don't have the time, energy, or funds to pursue anything and Karu isn't that petty, but...all I am saying is, make sure legally you've covered your ass, regardless. Don't just assume because there's no lease or written agreement that you can do whatever you want with someone else's property just because it's "in your house". For all she knew, we weren't done—we'd told her we'd be back.
面白い...
Ah well. We weren't returning anyway so in the grand scheme of things, it doesn't matter. But imagine if it did? That's what she thinks of us. Garbage to be easily disposed of in a dumpster.
At least we're not paying almost $900 to heat our home ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Godspeed, Egg. I wish you luck in whatever future endeavors you embark on...and the life you most deserve.
*
This Reddit post popped up while I was making lunch: Nmom wanted me to validate her working / grooming me into being her little retirement plan. The title caught my eye of course. What is it with narcissists turning their offspring into a combini 401(k)-long-term-care-plan? Why is this such a common thing?
So I replied, of course, under Karu's account:
(Serena said, "I can tell you wrote this from the first sentence because of how clinical it sounds.")
Why expect any emotion out of me when it comes to Egg, anyway?
(No one expects any emotion out of me when it concerns Egg.)
*
Wegmans is hiring again for pretty much everything, so we've once again put in an application. We'll see what happens.
There was supposed to be a discussion, and there wasn't one. She attempted to call once and then never again on 28 December before starting this on 6 January. I know this because I can see the checks she wrote and who they were to. She is supposed to give 30 days' notice to retrieve whatever was left behind before disposing of it. She is supposed to try multiple times to establish contact before disposing of what is considered someone ese's property. In her not doing so she's opened herself up to a lawsuit. We don't have the time, energy, or funds to pursue anything and Karu isn't that petty, but...all I am saying is, make sure legally you've covered your ass, regardless. Don't just assume because there's no lease or written agreement that you can do whatever you want with someone else's property just because it's "in your house". For all she knew, we weren't done—we'd told her we'd be back.
面白い...
Ah well. We weren't returning anyway so in the grand scheme of things, it doesn't matter. But imagine if it did? That's what she thinks of us. Garbage to be easily disposed of in a dumpster.
At least we're not paying almost $900 to heat our home ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Godspeed, Egg. I wish you luck in whatever future endeavors you embark on...and the life you most deserve.
*
This Reddit post popped up while I was making lunch: Nmom wanted me to validate her working / grooming me into being her little retirement plan. The title caught my eye of course. What is it with narcissists turning their offspring into a combini 401(k)-long-term-care-plan? Why is this such a common thing?
So I replied, of course, under Karu's account:
Mine only held a job long enough to get married and procreate. Never worked again, not even after her husband died, preferring instead to live off of social security death benefits and her kids. Threatened to kick us out (and ended up kicking my brother out) when we didn't have jobs because money is the only thing she loves and only language she speaks. I was going to be both her retirement and long term care plan once she was no longer able-bodied. Expected me to give up any hopes and dreams, any desire for a life that wasn't to her benefit. All she cares about is money, the value of things, this "you scratch my back I'll scratch yours" way of things. Dangling carrots off of strings to keep everyone in line.
She keeps saying she's such a good person and doesn't deserve being treated like this and yet...she isn't a good person. There's a reason why she has no friends, no family except my Golden Child brother who only does things out of obligation, there is no love there. He expressed how he felt about her treatment of him where he sits on the edge of golden child and scapegoat and ended it with, "But you know all about that, don't you?"
Our nparents will likely die alone somewhere. Maybe their homes or maybe some facility somewhere where they can watch others their age get visited by kids and grandkids and swing by with presents for birthdays and holidays. They did this to themselves. It's sad, sure. But there's nothing we can do for them. If they treated us like loving parents would, we would help them.
That's all they yearn for is validation. Like a 3 year old who comes home from preschool with a picture made of dried macaroni and cotton balls representing the family and excitedly exclaims, "Look what I made!" They want that praise no matter how empty "oh that's nice!" might sound because it makes them feel good. But we can't give them what they want and why should we? They never gave us what we needed from them, just the bare minimum.
(Serena said, "I can tell you wrote this from the first sentence because of how clinical it sounds.")
Why expect any emotion out of me when it comes to Egg, anyway?
(No one expects any emotion out of me when it concerns Egg.)
*
Wegmans is hiring again for pretty much everything, so we've once again put in an application. We'll see what happens.